Apparently many parents do not agree that children should be taught effective sex education. This is extremely sad considering that about 800,000 children in the US each year chance ruining their beautiful lives because of an unplanned pregnancy. About 92% of the estimated 1.3 million abortions in the US each year are the result of unintended pregnancy.
Oral sex is real sex and offers complete sexual satisfaction. It preserves male or female virginity, because it is not sexual intercourse. Like anal sex and mutual masturbation, non-penetrative oral sex can leave the hymen intact.
It does carry a potential risk of pregnancy if both partners don’t exercise caution to prevent pregnancy. Take care to insure that your fingers, hands, and other body parts don’t accidentally carry any ejaculated semen/sperm smears in contact with the vaginal area (even indirectly).
Yes, STD s can be transmitted through oral sex. The risks from infections from chlamydia, gonorrhea, HP V, herpes, hepatitis and HIV is far less than from vaginal or anal sex.
There is an increased risk of STD transmission if either partner has wounds or open sores on their genitals or wounds or open sores in their mouth; or bleeding gums.
It’s not surprising that there are many words, names, or phrases to describe oral sex. Perhaps you have heard some of the following: Cunnilingus, giving head, head job, muff diving, eating out, blow job, giving lip, going down on, lolly-gagging and playing the skin flute.
Most couples in love find the moment to be alone and to explore each other and experiment with each other. This is the most personal act two people can experience.
Sincerity, honesty, and secrecy are paramount. Equally important is total cleanness. This begins long before you get to the intimate spots. Every item of clothing and every spot on the body needs to be spotless and odorless. No one can ever be too clean. Insure that both heads of hair are clean and smell fresh. The teeth must be clean and the breath fresh. Finger nails need to be short and clean. Partners need to smell and taste delicious to the each other. Both must wash with soap; not just water. A douche is welcomed.
Try to know the human body. Men and women have different needs and respond differently. Kiss each other all over. Go slow and steady. Use feeling. Have an informal atmosphere and close connection. Always show respect, praise, gratitude, admiration and approval.
Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. Generally, women prefer slow receptive motion and firm pressure. Insure sufficient foreplay. Remember that the clitoris extends deep inside a woman’s body. Suck the clitoris while tonguing. Use your hands during oral sex… touch, touch, touch. Words are important. Naturally “I love you” is important… try a little dirty talk too.
Talk, go slow, shower together, sip some champagne during oral sex, use a bit of non-toxic, edible lubricant on each other before oral. Never totally dismiss the assistance of a gentle vibrator and there is a very wide selection to choose from.
Porn pictures or videos might be a plus if both feel comfortable with porn.
Both partners need to stimulate the five senses of sight, smell, touch, hearing, and taste for each other. Try candle light and a sexy nightgown. Try incense, scented candles, cologne, and a nice shower with soap. Try caressing and massaging each other, using oils and creams. Try soft music. Try a candlelit meal; then enjoy food (like whip cream) in your love making.
In one survey about 40% of the readers rated oral sex as the sexual interest that they would most prefer to have from their partner. You can prepare your partner and self for oral sex by first watching a sex movie. Improve sex pleasure by using gel. Using an oral vibrator as foreplay with her clitoris and G spot in conjunction with the tongue will greatly increase her enjoyment.
You must love to do oral; it can’t just be a task. Foreplay is just plain smart… and fun. Insure adequate lubrication. Use a pillow. Never allow you sex to become routine in a certain position.
Practice to make your oral sex skill professional and satisfying.
Privacy is a necessity. Never allow interruptions form anyone. Unplug the phone and door bell.
Always experiment with each other. Surprises are the key to your enjoyment. Just always relax, let go and totally enjoy every minute of oral. Motions alone are not enough. Find a good position that is best for the feel. Try a variable. Know your partner’s special spots. Watch your partner’s expressions and sounds. Ask your partner to tell you his or her desires and preferences, so you can properly adjust your rhythm, pressure and speed.
Try to believe that oral sex is not to get a person ‘off’. It is about having fun with your partner and the genitals; giving pleasure to each other and bringing sensations that you might not get during sexual intercourse. Just have fun and enjoy oral sex to the fullest.
Oral is the time for ultimate satisfaction. Don’t be shy. Ask outright for what you want. Don’t assume anything. Just ask, “Do you want to go down on me?”
Frustration is painful; especially for a woman. Don’t hesitate to buy a book or video for you and your partner. If necessary come out and ask him to see a doctor or sex specialist, because you are worried that he may need vitamins etc.
Yes, oral sex is definitely the ultimate sex for pure sexual enjoyment.